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Preparing Your Children for Peer Pressure

But Parents Have More Influence Than They Think

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Peer pressure can be a major negative force in the lives of children and adolescents, often resulting in their experimentation with tobacco, alcohol, and illegal drugs or other illegal activities, not to mention tastes in music, fashions, and styles.

Parents sometimes feel helpless dealing with the effects of peer pressure on their children, but according to the Center For Mental Health Services, parents have a tremendous influence over their children and can take steps to counter the influence of peer pressure.

According to the center, here are some steps parents and caregivers can take to prepare children for combating peer pressure:

Teach young people how to refuse offers for cigarettes, alcohol and drugs. Making children comfortable with what they can say goes a long way. For instance, shy children and adolescents might be more comfortable saying, "no thanks," or "I have to go," while those who are more outgoing might saying something like, "forget it!" or "no way!" No matter what approach parents choose, it is important for them to role-play peer-pressure situations with their children.

Talk to young people about how to avoid undesirable situations or people who break the rules. Children and adolescents who are not in situations where they feel pressure to do negative actions are far less likely to do them. Likewise, those who choose friends who do not smoke, drink, use drugs, steal, and lie to their parents are far less likely to do these things as well.

Remind children that there is strength in numbers. When young people can anticipate stressful peer pressure situations, it might be helpful if they bring friends for support.

Let young people know that it is okay to seek an adult's advice. While it would be ideal if children sought the advice of their parents, other trusted adults can usually help them avoid most difficult situations, such as offers to smoke, drink, or use drugs.

Nurture strong self-esteem. Strong self-esteem helps children and adolescents make decisions and follow them, even if their friends do not think some choices are "cool." Some ways parents can do this include being generous with praise, teaching children how to perceive themselves in positive ways, and avoiding criticism of children that takes the form of ridicule or shame.

The Caring for Every Child's Mental Health Campaign is part of the Comprehensive Community Mental Health Services for Children and Their Families Program of the Federal Center for Mental Health Services. Parents and caregivers who wish to learn more about mental wellbeing in children may call 1-800- 789-2647 (toll-free) or download a free publications catalog from the web site.

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